Side note about the picture: Joel is a huge who fan, here he is having the time of his life at comic con in NOLA.
Joel is almost 18 years old, and in many ways he acts his age. But of course, he is childlike in some ways, however this does not give anyone to talk to him like he’s a baby. It’s one of my greatest pet peeves. It’s so demeaning and it just makes me so angry.
Not too many people do it, but when I notice it I just can’t help but look at you in disgust. The sad part is, most people who do it are older family members of ours. This means I can’t really say anything to them without being disrespectful. I mean technically I can but it won’t pretty, and they won’t let me forget it. My family/culture is different from the average American family. I remember one time I told my mom and my aunt to stop saying “pobrecito” when referring to Joel. (Pobrecito= poor thing) Now they bring it up all the time, my mom does so way more. When they catch themselves saying it they’ll look at me (sometimes in disgust and sometimes laughing) and say Raquel doesn’t like that. They missed my reasoning and just focused on me telling them what not to do. At least it got them thinking about it?? But you get my point, I can’t really correct these people when they do baby talk.
When one of my aunts goes to tell Joel hi, a lot of the time she’ll bend down and squeeze his cheeks and do the baby talk. Joel for the most part doesn’t react and sits still, sometimes he’ll be rude and say “stupid,” luckily she doesn’t understand him. After doing this, my aunt will usually look at me with a smile as if I should be pleased with her interaction with Joel. I will not smile back lady, your interaction is demeaning. I think this is why Joel is kind of mean to my aunts when they come over. You can hear him say “Oh no, not again” when he sees them coming in. It’s so funny to my sister and I and luckily I don’t think most of my family understands him when he says it.
Joel deserves to be spoken to normally, please no baby talk.