The story behind this picture is a good one. My sister was taking my senior pictures when I graduated college and Joel interrupted to pose. I’ll post the rest of those pictures at the bottom of this post.
Joel makes friends very easily, especially if your a guy around his age. I’m so appreciative of everyone who is kind and accepts his friendship. Thank you to those who:
- listen to him even though you can’t understand what he is saying
- go along with never ending games of poking and pretending it wasn’t him
- hold his hand
- Let him play on their phone
- Let him take pictures for Snapchat and Instagram
- Texting or Snapchatting/DMing him back even though he sends jibberish
You’re the best. But like always there’s always people who are just are not too nice. There was this one time when we went to a restaurant where this person, we’ll call Mr.Krabs, worked. Mr.Krabs is a family friendish, and goes to our church. He’s close to Joel’s age and like any normal person, Joel sees this person as a peer and always gets excited when he sees him because Joel sees this person as a friend. To be fair, Mr. Krabs usually will be nice and greet him in a playful way. But Mr.Krabs, couldn’t keep pretending to be nice to Joel all the time. (Mr. Krabs and I argued a lot about little things in a friendshipy kinda way but we remained amicable, but somethings I can’t easily look past. And somethings includes how you treat my brother.)
So, we go to the restaurant and Joel immediately gets excited when he sees Mr.Krabs. This means Joel is loud and laughing a lot. Joel tries to be playful and is not taking the hints that Mr.Krabs is not in the mood. (Sometimes I can see that Joel is being annoying and I try calm him down, but if your gonna be rude, I’ll let him annoy you.) Mr. Krabs kept giving me looks as if he wanted me to do something. At first I was trying calm Joel down but I can’t control him. The looks were okay I guess because they were pointed at me and not Joel. But as soon as his annoyed face and tone of his voice was directed at Joel, I had a problem. Strike 1.
The restaurant is small and it wasn’t very busy, maybe Mr. Krabs was having a bad day. I know I can be mean to Joel sometimes, but all Mr. Krabs had to do was be nice for 10 minutes. We weren’t in there very long at all. Joel was eating his order very happily and making gestures with his hands. Mr. Krabs grabbed his hands and placed them on the counter and said “shhhhhh.” Strike 2. Joel is thinking this is a funny game and he doesn’t see that Mr. Krabs isn’t being nice. I let it go at first, because I didn’t want to argue with him. Then came strike 3. He had had enough, looked at Joel and said, “Oh My God!” Then turned to me and said, “Can’t you control your brother.” So I yelled back kinda. “No, I can’t. You know he has down syndrome and he doesn’t get that he’s annoying you. He is just trying to play with you because he sees you as a friend.” Mr. Krabs then said, “Well, make him chill out.” So we just left. There was no point to continue arguing.
I can’t make everyone patient and kind to Joel but I wish I could. It always catches me off guard when I come across people who are not kind about disabilities. I always expect people to be patient and nice, and that is not always going to happen.
Joel’s reaction to this situation is very sweet. He never saw the rudeness and continues to always see this person as a friend and is always excited to see him. Someone asked me once who I admire the most in my life and my answer was Joel. Then they asked why and I dreaded answering because I hate getting emotional. My answer is because he always sees the good in people. He is never prejudice. He doesn’t hold grudges. He will always see you as a friend first. You can be mean to him and he may not notice and if he does, he’ll forgive you within minutes. I love him dearly, and I’m so thankful for those of you who are kind to him and keep his friendship alive.