Family is supposed to be your biggest support system, but I have found that this is only somewhat true. Family is weird at times. Ya know, families fight and stuff but they also love each other. It is very much love/hate I think. My family is pretty distant now for the most part and I don’t really know why. Some are very supportive and loving but have also found that some of Joel’s biggest supporters aren’t family.
Example: The picture above is of a family that is basically family. Joel completely loves them and they love him. They are great and I’m so thankful for them. My actual family is distant as I mentioned earlier. A lot of them are great and show love and support for Joel in many ways. But I would like to share an example of one of the time family has not been that great to Joel:
I remember years ago when Joel was maybe about 8 or 9, he was obsessed with his cars. He would always line them all over the house. He knew every time one was moved or missing. Well, some of my cousins came over while Joel’s cars were everywhere and the younger of the bunch that came over was maybe 6-7ish, who we’ll call Rafiki. Well Rafiki ended up taking one of Joel’s cars, ya know, like little boys do. So this led to Joel getting very upset and pointing to Rafiki and then pointing to a car and then pointing to his pocket. (Because Joel couldn’t communicate.) If I remember correctly this led to the moms being tense with each other but they didn’t actually fight. But what I do remember is that my cousins took the situation personal. One of them, who we’ll call Simba, came up to me few days later and flat out said that they didn’t like Joel or my mom anymore. Simba was upset that Joel made such a big deal about the car and he should’ve behaved better because Rafiki was younger.
I remember being shocked and upset but I didn’t say anything. I thought to myself don’t they get it? Joel is different, I was sure they should have known and understanded. Well families fight and get over it all the time, eventually everything was cool. I have a handful of family members that are actually there for Joel and others who are not so much. And that’s okay. Family isn’t always people who are blood related and I’m grateful for the family Joel and I have.
This post is a bit cheesy! Sorry!