Jokes

People are always trying to be funny and sometimes they end up being rude… or just stupid. I’m not referring to bad jokes, I am referring to jokes about special needs/ disabilities. It used to happen a lot when I was in school, which is expected because ya know, dumb teens. But it always hits me hard when it happens now, as an adult coming from other adults.

I don’t know what’s worse… Seeing someone catch themselves making that joke in front of me, them making the joke at all, or seeing them not care about making the joke. It’s all a frustrating experience for me.  I’ll share two sort of recent experiences, both from people I love dearly:

Church:

So this one happened after a Sunday service and a group of us were sitting together at a table talking.  I’ll refer to the person who made the disability joke as  Professor X. I do not remember exactly what was said but someone at the table said something and either mixed up their words or was teasing someone who did. Professor X then rolled his/her eyes, waved his/her arm back and forth by his/her chest and babbled. Then Professor X looked at me with wide eyes and said, “Oh no, I’m sorry I didn’t mean it like it that.”

What I should have said: Then how did you mean it? So, suddenly, it’s not funny because of my brother? Was it funny to you before? Why make the joke? Look, it’s okay. Just please don’t make those jokes regardless if I’m around or not. — Any of that might have been acceptable.

What I said instead: Nothing. I smiled at Professor X and walked away.

Tutti Frutti:

So this one took place at a frozen yogurt shop called Tutti Frutti. I’ll refer this person as Magneto. It was a group of us that had taken several cars. One of the people I was with parked in handicap spot. Actually they parked sideways taking two handicap spots. Now my brother can walk, my issue was not directly related to my brother, my issue was that it was a rude thing to do. So when Magneto got inside I said ask why he/she did that and that it was not cool. Magneto’s response still boils my blood. Magneto said, “But I am handicapped.” With a big ol’ smile like he’she just said the funniest thing and then did the exact same thing that Professor X did in my previous scenario. ^^

I was bolder this time, I didn’t smile. I told Magento to stop laughing, it’s not funny. Magento said, “Oh.” That’s it. Magneto didn’t apologize and that’s okay, but at least I said something.

There have been countless other times. Some that have nothing to do with Joel or his disability; like a whole group of people making fun of sign language, pretending to limp, or pretending to have any disability. It all makes me cringe and makes me what to slap them give them a lesson on decency. They should know better. Education is important people. Don’t be ignorant, don’t make these jokes.

P.S: Same goes for using the word retarded. Just don’t.

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