Side note about the picture: Joel is a huge who fan, here he is having the time of his life at comic con in NOLA.
Joel is almost 18 years old, and in many ways he acts his age. But of course, he is childlike in some ways, however this does not give anyone to talk to him like he’s a baby. It’s one of my greatest pet peeves. It’s so demeaning and it just makes me so angry.
Not too many people do it, but when I notice it I just can’t help but look at you in disgust. The sad part is, most people who do it are older family members of ours. This means I can’t really say anything to them without being disrespectful. I mean technically I can but it won’t pretty, and they won’t let me forget it. My family/culture is different from the average American family. I remember one time I told my mom and my aunt to stop saying “pobrecito” when referring to Joel. (Pobrecito= poor thing) Now they bring it up all the time, my mom does so way more. When they catch themselves saying it they’ll look at me (sometimes in disgust and sometimes laughing) and say Raquel doesn’t like that. They missed my reasoning and just focused on me telling them what not to do. At least it got them thinking about it?? But you get my point, I can’t really correct these people when they do baby talk.
When one of my aunts goes to tell Joel hi, a lot of the time she’ll bend down and squeeze his cheeks and do the baby talk. Joel for the most part doesn’t react and sits still, sometimes he’ll be rude and say “stupid,” luckily she doesn’t understand him. After doing this, my aunt will usually look at me with a smile as if I should be pleased with her interaction with Joel. I will not smile back lady, your interaction is demeaning. I think this is why Joel is kind of mean to my aunts when they come over. You can hear him say “Oh no, not again” when he sees them coming in. It’s so funny to my sister and I and luckily I don’t think most of my family understands him when he says it.
Joel deserves to be spoken to normally, please no baby talk.
Joel posing so proudly after his first season with Miracle League Basketball with his best bro 🙂
This is something about that I mentioned in my other post: Comparing. When going to all these event Joel is involved with now I noticed the cliques for parents.
In our case, I’m usually the one to take joel to his events. Sometimes my mom and sister tag a long but for the most part, it’s usually just me. So, maybe the reason I don’t fit in any of these cliques is because I am not a parent. Regardless the cliques exist and bother me. I’ll use Joel’s baseball games with the Miracle League as an example. I chose this one because for some reason, the cliques are so much more predominant during these games. I really don’t know why but they are.
The cliques are divided by race and class. Sadly…
All of the parents of players who are in private school all sit together and talk to only each other. I clearly remember only one instance when one of these parents talked to me. All this person asked me was what grade is Joel in. When I answered she said, “Oh, I haven’t seen him. He goes to blank (I won’t say the name of the school) right.” I answered no and said he goes to public school. That was the last time I ever spoke to one of them beside the occasional hello.
Not to sound racist or ugly, but all the parents of the players that go to private school happen to all be white. So on one side, it is all white “richer” people. Then there’s the white parents of players that don’t go to private school on another side. So even the white families are divided. And then there’s the families of color who do not fit into any of these categories are dispersed among the bleachers by their lonesome. To be far, there a lot less colored families but for some reason, no one in these categories mix with each other. There the occasional side conversation between everyone but it always goes back to the cliques.
It shouldn’t bother me, I mean I am not there for them, I am there for my brother. This is just an observation I’ve made and hopefully it’ll change.